The (Magic) Anti-Cool Dating Profile
OkCupid appears to be self-destructing and as someone who LOVED the personality-first, questions-heavy profiles, this makes me super, super sad.
My personality is WAY better than my photos so image-first dating apps with bite-sized profiles (if any) really aren't my jam. It took a bit, but I realized using the "perfect" pictures or the "coolest" bio didn't work. What does? Embracing your quirky, funny, and unapologetic self... even if that means looking a little uh... unHinged. š„š„
Whether short (Bumble, Tinder, etc) or long (Goblins, Firefly, OkCupid)ā your profile is your bat signal. Help your people to find youā¦and actively weed out anyone that thinks you're weird/too much/etc. You'd find them too normal/dull for you anyway! :D
The best part? You make it so much easier for people to message you because they have something to respond/react/ask you about!
Here are my tips for authoring an awesome profile that does you justice (no matter how introverted or self-conscious you are):
Be authentic, looking cool be damned
Really. Looking cool is so high school. And high school sucked, so no more of that.
While it's tempting to describe what you should have on your profile, you want to find the people who will embrace the real you, not the ideal version of yourself. So lean into it!
Whatās your perfect day-off look like?
I might want to put: Go for a hike and then hit up a brewery!
Instead, Iām writing: Set my alarm for a reasonable time, probably turn it off and sleep in a little bit longer. Yelp an awesome diner or locate a spot for the best [cinnamon roll, baked bread, etc.] and take a road-trip to it. Use Atlas Obscura to find any worthwhile detours and/or look for some thrift shops and see who can spot the weirdest thing in there. End the day with a movie night on the couch or assemble some friends for board games.
Progress over perfection
Your profile doesnāt have to be Shakespearean. Start with whatever you feel represents who you are, even if it's just a list of facts about yourselfā you can edit if/when inspiration strikes later.
We have a ton of quirky, fun prompts you can answer on Goblins but here are some ideas for any āMeet Our Hero/About Meā section.
When I have free time I like toā¦
Something Iām really good at / proud of isā¦
I spend a lot of time thinking aboutā¦
A guilty pleasure of mine isā¦
One thing that never fails to put me in a good mood isā¦
You can always count on me toā¦
[Talk about your pets!]
I work as a [insert what you do here] but I feel like in a multiverse, Iām a [enter whatever you think you might be doing here!]
One thing Iām oddly passionate about isā¦
Something I wish more people knew about me isā¦
I like to collectā¦
The best advice Iāve ever received isā¦
A habit or ritual I canāt go without isā¦
Don't overthink it
As the queen of overthinking, know this is easier said than done- but remember, your profile doesn't need to impress or convince anyone youāre interesting. Glimpses into who you are and what makes you unique will resonate with the right people, so just start by writing something.
P.S. If you think we'd get along, send me a game invite on Goblins. My username is Lise š